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Anonymous asked: Do you think Kurt cannot handle this relationship ? to me it seems like Kurt was not ready for this level of commitment and though he still loves and cares for blaine he seems unsuitable for the relationship


Okay, there are only so many ways I can answer the relationship question.  I did like four last night, and I think unless someone comes up with something really specific this is going to be the last one.

No one is ready for a relationship ever.  No one is good at relationships all the time.  No one comes into a relationship with all the skills they need.

Relationships work when people identify fault lines and try to address them.  Sometimes that is enough.  Sometimes it isn’t.

What is an absolute deal-breaker in one relationship is “Oh my god you forgot to take out the trash again” in another.

I don’t know if Kurt can handle this relationship.  I don’t know if Blaine can.  I don’t know that either of them can’t.

Certainly this is far from a place of no return, and they are both trying to communicate and improve their habits and look for solutions, which may or may not work.

Relationships are hard, and all relationships can go through periods that are kind of awful or boring or weird.  Especially when you don’t yet have a lot of skills and do have a lot of baggage you hadn’t even known yet to name.

This is not a Kurt problem or a Blaine problem.  People aren’t problems for how they cope or for not knowing how they cope.

It’s all about what happens next.

Also, score-keeping is really unhealthy in relationships.  Which means I think score-keeping is also a terrible tool to analyze other people’s relationships, even fictional ones.

Anonymous asked: Why are the Blaine!stans-that-hate-Kurt in your inbox?


I don’t know that that’s true.  I think the hate messages I get are usually pretty overt in their hate.

And you know, I think it’s reasonable that lots of people who feel vulnerable, or insecure, or don’t have a lot of relationship experience identify with Blaine.  That desire to be liked, to feel like love has to be earned is a very real thing.

And if you’re identifying with Blaine in that way, and you have some really traditional romantic viewpoints or hopes, you want Kurt to make it better, to be a salve, to absolve Blaine of guilt and pain you feel he shouldn’t harbour.

And then Kurt doesn’t do that exactly.

And if this is supposed to be the fairytale that gives you hope, and the fairytale can’t even be the fairytale… well, you might have some feelings about that.

Pointing at Glee and being like “This is how it is, yo” seems a little absurd.  But in a lot of ways its very truthful about some of the ways hard interpersonal things can turn out.

For people that want an HEA (which I believe Glee will provide these characters), that can be hard.  Because you’re like — get together, conflict on page 50, misunderstanding, misunderstanding, resolution at 150, denouement and done!

But Glee isn’t a romance.  And it certainly isn’t a traditional romance.  And people who are looking for those sorts of things from it, are going to be frustrated and hurt and maybe scared.

I think how people in Klaine fandom have reacted to plots about cheating and jealousy really underscores how much people come at the pairing as part of the romance genre, and I’d be curious to see how many people in the fandom have been romance readers pre- or post-Klaine.

(P.S. Erin and I’s romances?  Are hard.  Everything we’ve sold to date is an HEA.  But they are hard and have some realism, and don’t follow that “on page 50” structure.  Just so you know what you’re getting into).


It was one of those days when it’s a minute away from snowing and there’s this electricity in the air, you can almost hear it. Right? And this bag was just dancing with me. Like a little kid begging me to play with it. For fifteen minutes. That’s the day I realized that there was this entire life behind things, and this incredibly benevolent force that wanted me to know there was no reason to be afraid, ever. Video’s a poor excuse, I know. But it helps me remember… I need to remember… Sometimes there’s so much beauty in the world, I feel like I can’t take it, and my heart is just going to cave in. —American Beauty

I was making inarticulate grabby hands at the screen.  I know that American Beauty is often reviled with distance and within the Internet community I move in (creepy white guy’s pain, fuck you), but it’s one of my favorite films about the way men and women are asked to brazen through lives they were not cut out for. 

Remember that one of its other major plots involves a girl who lies about not being a virgin to look cool while bragging about the fame she doesn’t actually have.  And then an adult man falls in obsession with her until she confesses the ruse which while designed to keep her safe from her peers, made the rest of her life pretty fucked up.

A lot of this episode was about what does it mean to be an adult and should you and can you endure trying to fake it and hold in your fear.

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I’ve talked about how a lot of what happened with Blaine this episode was a reaction to trauma. (from a relationships crisis to the bashing) - and as much as I think that it was a form of self-punishment, there’s also comfort-eating to think about. Because Blaine can…


Statue in Old Town Alexandria, Va.

Emily & Mary Edmonson were two of the 77 that tried to escape from Md slavery to the North on the ship ‘The Pearl.’ The ship was seized and they we’re put in jail. Their free father tried to raise funds to free them as they were taken to New Orleans to become ‘fancy girls.’ The yellow fever epidemic broke out in NOLA and they were sent to Va.

Funds were raised as their account spread and they were freed. Their story made them celebrities of the abolitionist movement and featured in Harriet Beecher Stowe’s ‘A Key to Uncle Tom’s Cabin.’

Info via xxx xxx wiki

I wouldn’t have learned none of this if I wasn’t just walking around looking for some breakfast lol 😀

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Accessible in the library’s Elihu Reading Room, the book, entitled “Practicarum quaestionum circa leges regias…,” looks old but otherwise ordinary.

Delicate, stiff, and with wrinkled edges, the skin’s coloring is a subdued yellow, with sporadic brown and black splotches like an old banana. The skin is not covered in hair or marked by tattoos—except for a “Harvard Law Library” branding on its spine. Nothing about it shouts “human flesh” to the untrained eye.

The book’s 794th and final page includes an inscription in purple cursive: “the bynding of this booke is all that remains of my dear friende Jonas Wright, who was flayed alive by the Wavuma on the Fourth Day of August, 1632. King Mbesa did give me the book, it being one of poore Jonas chiefe possessions, together with ample of his skin to bynd it. Requiescat in pace.”


— Remember the good old days when books were, on occasion, bound in human skin? Here is an article on some that Harvard discovered on their library shelves. (via johndonne)

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Rich interior life….

I think that’s why I read Kurt Hummel the way I do. I think people saw him close down on this week’s episode and read cruelty instead of pain, caprice instead of his own need to protect himself. I see these things, because I’ve seen that expression and that body language in the mirror nearly my whole life, so see that he is young, and he doesn’t know how to help or what to do in the face of something as complex as Blaine’s issues and needs. I see him protecting himself the way he’s had to learn how, and I see him struggling to learn a whole new set of tools he needs to do the kind of relationship he wants to have with Blaine.

Point of view is everything. Story is everything. I watch Klaine, and I have compassion for them even when they are both behaving extremely badly. How can I not? We have all behaved badly because we were hurt, or frustrated, or confused, or didn’t know any better. We have all hurt people by mistake and on purpose both. We have all made bad choices in a crunch or not known what to do or been so blinded by our own baggage we couldn’t see how the other person or people are hurting.

It is easy to take sides and have a clear hero and villain. One of the things I like about Glee is so often they don’t. I have always lived in the grey spaces; it’s nice to see a show that does too.





Now if that’s doesn’t spark a Loki movie, I don’t know what will.

I love you for saying this.

"Not enough Loki." -Rolling Stone


Helen Keller, left, and her teacher Anne Sullivan play chess, in 1900.
Photo from the American Foundation for the Blind.

We were just talking the other day, about the way people focus on the narrative of her being saved from isolation my her teacher and forget the intelligent adult woman who became a political activist, wrote an autobiography and lived an interesting adult life full of agency, and here this photograph is.


Helen Keller, left, and her teacher Anne Sullivan play chess, in 1900.

Photo from the American Foundation for the Blind.

We were just talking the other day, about the way people focus on the narrative of her being saved from isolation my her teacher and forget the intelligent adult woman who became a political activist, wrote an autobiography and lived an interesting adult life full of agency, and here this photograph is.

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Anonymous asked: I saw a lot of talk about this earlier admittedly from ppl who were very upset by kurt in the episode but i have to ask ... do u think chris' acting has degenarated in quality ?? I thought his acting was fine as ever but it seems lea darren mike etc have been carrying all his scenes ??!! Is that true ?


Y’all get that acting is like a subjective thing, right?

And that different material produces different results?

And that different people will respond to different things?

And that there are multiple ways to interpret the same script?

And that directorial choices are also in play here?

And that you, yes, you! Get to decide if you think someone’s acting is good.  That’s it. 

Colfer is really made for TV/film.  His work is extremely minute, detailed, and highly controlled, and he gives great face for old-school farce moments.  I think he’s extraordinary.  I say this all the time, but watch the freaky thing Kevin Spacey is able to do with his eyes when his character dies in L.A Confidential (you can find it online).  Colfer is that good and I think that was intensely apparent in 5.15 and parts of 5.16.

Criss and Michele are both theater actors by training and it shows. 

I think Michele is consistently fine on camera and really doesn’t get enough credit for her comedic chops which are stellar.

Criss’s face is highly mobile in a way Americans often un-prefer on TV (also Blaine ugly cries, which Americans really unprefer), and I think finding that control will benefit him in the long term.  But his ability to convey emotion remains something that I think Glee hasn’t really even begun to show us.  He’s very good.  But he’s going to be a lot more interesting when he’s older and allowed to play darker characters.

"On the anniversary of the Boston Marathon Bombings, Rachel Maddow discusses how right-wing extremists have carried out more domestic terror attacks than jihadists since September 11th."

I am on record with my opinion that white right wing terrorists do vastly more damage in this country than jihadists.

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"We have no means of exchange apart from mutual aid. If a witch needs something, another witch will give it to her. If there is a war to be fought, we don’t consider cost one of the factors in deciding whether or not it is right to fight. Nor do we have any notion of honor, as bears do, for instance. An insult to a bear is a deadly thing. To us…inconceivable. How could you insult a witch? What would it matter if you did?"

Serafina Pekkala, a witch queen in The Golden Compass by Philip Pullman

This quote is so phenomenally badass. WHAT WOULD IT MATTER IF YOU DID.

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